We all have been there, when everything feels absolutely awful and you know you are not alright. But before you give up and go down that dark path we all know and have experienced, there is a couple of questions that you can ask yourself to try and get up through it. We will go over them in this blogpost. I have been in an emotional and physical ditch for years, on and off depression and sometimes the depression might just last for a month and sometimes it goes several months until I can get up from it. But I found this and I will try them next time I am starting to feel like I want to be a part of the floor here at home.
Are you hydrated? If not, have a glass of water.
Have you eaten in the past three hours? If not, get some food – something with protein, not just simple carbs. Perhaps some nuts or hummus?
Have you showered in the past day? If not, take a shower right now.
Have you stretched your legs in the past day? If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the energy for a run or trip to the gym, just walka round the block, then keep walking as long as you please. If the weather’s crap, drive to a big box store and go on a brisk walk through the aisles you normally skip.
Have you said something nice to someone in the past day? Do so, whether online or in person. Make it genuine; wait until you see something really wonderful about someone, and tell them about it.
Have you moved your body to music in the past day? If not, jog for the length of an EDM song at your favorite tempo, or just dance around the room for the length of an upbeat song.
Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days? If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from friends or friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the cuddles too; you are not imposing on them.
Have you seen a therapist in the past few days? If not, hang on until your next therapy visit and talk through things then.
Have you changed any of your medications in the past couple of weeks, including skipping doses or a change in generic prescription brand? That may be screwing with your head. Give things a few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle down.
If daytime: are you dressed? If not, put on clean clothes that aren’t pyjamas. Give yourself permission to wear something special, whether it is a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress.
If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but resisting going to sleep? Put on pajams, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your eyes for fifteen minutes – no electronic screens allowed. If you’re still awake after that, you can get up again; no pressure.
Do you feel ineffective? Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an e-mail, loading up the dishwasher or packing your gym bag for your next trip. Good job!
Do you feel unattractive? Take a goddamn selfie. Your friends will remind you how great you look and you’ll help society’s restrictions on what beauty can look like.
Do you feel paralyzed of indecision? Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a game plan for the day. If a particular decision or problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside for now and pick something else that seems doable. Right now the important part is to break through that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial.
Have you over-exerted yourself lately – physically, emotionally, socially or intellectually? That can be a toll that lingers for days. Give yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical rest, taking time alone or relaxing with some silly entertainment.
Have you waited a week? Sometimes our perception of life is skewed and we can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and there is no ovious external caus. It happens, can not stress this enough. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and see if you still feel the same way then.
You’ve made it this far and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think.
Written text from the image here, quality is pretty bad so it hurts your eyes if you try and read it (at least for me).