Dear creepy heterosexual men…

Dear creepy heterosexual men guarding our bathrooms,

My entire life, I’ve been told to fear you in one way or another. I’ve been told to cover my body as to not distract you in school, to cover my body to help avoid unwanted advances or comments, to cover my body as to not tempt you to sexually assault me, to reject your unwanted advances politely as to not anger you. I’ve been taught to never walk alone at night, to hold my keys in my fist while walking in parking lots, to check the backseat of my car, to not drink too much because you might take advantage of me. I’ve been told what I should and shouldn’t do with my body as to not jeopardize my relationships with you.

I’ve been warned not to emasculate you, to let “boys be boys”, to protect your fragile ego and to not tread on your even more fragile masculinity. I’ve been taught to keep my emotions in check, to let you be the unit of measure for how much emotion is appropriate and to adjust my emotions accordingly. I’ve been taught that you’re allowed to categorize women into mothers/sisters/girlfriends/wives/daughters but any woman outside of your protected categories is fair game.

So to those of you who think you’re being helpful by “protecting” me and my fellow women, you’re like a shark sitting in the Lifeguard chair. I wasn’t uncomfortable until you showed up at the pool and the only potential predator I see is you.

Your mothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives and daughters don’t need you to walk them to the bathroom for safety. Your fathers, brothers, friends and sons need to walk themselves away from their own double standards. Women are sexually harassed and sexually assaulted on school campuses, on the street, at their jobs, on the Internet, in their own homes, in ANY public place. And it has been excused or ignored for so long because of what you and I are taught from the first years of our interactions with each other: You, as a male, are not accountable for your own actions. It’s MY responsibility, as a female, to not “provoke” you. But then you get to Knight-In-Shining-Armor your way through life for those in your protected categories and I am expected to applaud you. Why the outrage now over bathrooms? Why aren’t you outraged every single day?

If you’re telling me that there are high volumes of boys and men out there, in schools or in general, who are just waiting for a “loop hole” to sexually assault girls and women, we have bigger problems on our hands than bathrooms. The first problem would be your apparent lack of knowledge of how often it happens OUTSIDE of bathrooms, with no “loop holes” needed. This isn’t about Transgender bathroom access. This is about you not trusting the boys and men in your communities and/or fearing that they’re all secretly predators. Why do you have this fear? How many fathers have panicked when their daughters started dating because they “know how teenaged boys can be because they used to be one”? How many times have girls been warned “boys are only after one thing”? A mother can bring her young son into the women’s restroom and that’s fine but a father bringing his young daughter into the men’s restroom is disturbing because men are assumed to be predators and “little girls” shouldn’t be exposed to that.

So instead of picking up your sword and heading to Target or the girls’ locker room to defend our “rights”, why don’t you start somewhere that could actually make a difference? Challenge your children’s schools to end sexist dress codes and dress codes that sexualize girls as young as age 5. Advocate for proper (or any) sex education classes in all public schools by a certain grade level. Focus more on teaching your sons not to rape vs teaching your daughters how to avoid being raped. Stop asking “How would you feel if that was your mother or sister?” It shouldn’t take the comparison to clue you in to what’s right or wrong. Question why you’re more worried about your daughter being around men than your son being around women in bathrooms and dressing rooms. Stop walking by Victoria’s Secret with no problem but covering your son’s eyes if a woman is breastfeeding in public. Stop treating your daughter’s body as some fortress you’re sworn to protect as if that’s all she’s got to offer the world.

Written by Mo Squared – https://www.facebook.com/mc.squared.5?fref=nf

It is not only about the bathrooms in America, THIS is the fucking struggle as a female overall. Stop the hate, stop the witch hunting!

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Twisted minds of bigots keep on… not surprising me.

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Comments on the image that resonated really well with me:

“That’s why these people support these bills. They genuinely think everyone is as fucked up as they are.”

“We must not allow blameless innocents to have the freedom to do what we would do if we thought we could get away with it.”

“Gotta love how loudly they scream to cover up their own sins”

“I don’t even see how this is even an argument in the modern world. If you want to catch a glimpse of a boob badly enough, choose a word, any word will do, type it into Google Image Search, and start scrolling down. You’ll find a boob eventually. It’s not like we’re still living in the days where you had to bribe a homeless man to buy you a Playboy.”

I agree fully. Only ignorant inbreds can justify taking away human rights while humiliating anyone that might fit their -phobia (or in bad cases any kind of hate). I also saw in the comments an info section about TERF’s (Trans Exclusive Radical Feminist/Feminism… oooh this hits right up my anger alley) and how their feminism have decided to only work for “real” women. They decided to mingle into it with a statement such as: “It’s trans activism’s fault for saying all you have to do is claim you feel like a woman. We have to protect real women against men who’ll use the loophole.” For me, people like this can just fuck off. What decides what is a real woman and whatnot? Before it was two simple things (I heard this so many times and to this day I am not a real ass woman -chuckle-): 1. regular period. 2. having sex. That is what classified you as a “REAL ASS WOMAN” (I heard this even from the older generation, such as my grandma got told that when she was younger…) but it doesn’t.

TERF… bah… is just that shitty person you really fucking hate and want to avoid to all costs. That guy that reduces you to a walking vagina, that compares your sexuality and desire for sex to an open bank and rolls on the floor laughing at you because “if you let doors on a bank stay open you should expect it to get robbed”. That guy that keeps on objectifying women everywhere, that has this sick perversion of not wanting to understand that women – any kind – are their own individuals, and just as much person as he or anyone else is, and not a plaything or a bank or a couch or a fucking whatever you want to compare a womans vagina to. Because that is what they do, they do not see women as women other than if you have a vagina=you are a woman. They are reducing you, a fully capable person to a damn genitalia. I do not understand how people want to support an organisation like this, but I guess it resonates with some peoples closed minds and their idea of how everyone should be.

I would not be able to be friends with someone that supported TERF or anything like it, “my” Michelle is just as much woman as any other woman, she has the same rights as anyone else and she also is a feminist, but she wouldn’t try and throw more sexism into the mix, she genuinely wants it to be equal for both sexes and all genders. I do not want anyone to come up to her and tell her based on her being born with a penis it invalidates her every effort to become who she truely is because “you are not a real woman because you do not have a vagina”. Fuck that mentality and attitude, we all are people, we are all here on Earth together.

I know I generalized with my statement in the former post about some states in America being so backwards, I am both sorry and not sorry. There is a small truth in there and people need to acknowledge it, in acknowledging it you can do something about it. It is the same principle of let’s say… ANYTHING, if you pull the card “blame not enough people to do anything about anything~” you should know that if you actively support a cause you are doing something, in every possible way. You do not have to force your beliefs or ideals onto someone but you can reason with them, and that is where change starts for a better world together.

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